At one point in my life I became the girl who never shut her mouth, ever, about the “poor me, this one did that, why this, why that.”
It was not until one day, I really “heard” myself talking. I remember saying to myself, “Wow, do you ever say anything positive at all? Do you ever stop pointing out about what everyone else does? Have you ever stopped to think that maybe you are the problem, Melissa?”
That was a very serious eye opener for me.
Of course the flesh does not want to ever admit that there are issues at the core. I yo -yo’d with this discovery for a while. I would change and then would go right back when life became, “unfair”.
One day, I just got it. I just knew that I could definitely keep making up excuses for the rest of my life, because, hey, what I was saying was genuinely true.
I feel we all reach a point when we look in the mirror and say, “You miserable soul. No wonder why you are not happy. Look at who you have become? Keep on seeing life in this way and you will forever be unhappy and guess what sweetheart? You are to blame. Not this one, not that one, no, just you.
I like the quote by Jack Canfield, “Remember, you and you alone are responsible for maintaining your energy. Give up blaming, complaining and excuse making, and keep taking action in the direction of your goals – however mundane or lofty they may be.”
Life has become easier and I like myself. I really genuinely like me, today.
There is freedom in self admittance. The freedom to know that silence – at times – speaks louder than words ever could.